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We’ll also be exploring the possibility that we are part of a hidden minority shamed into silence by a culture that assesses our worth in large part based on whether someone (or “someones”) has selected us as worthy of partnership.What if we aren’t the outliers we have always assumed we were?Publications may be ringing the alarm about the “death of dating” thanks to the supposed “hook-up culture” and current technology, but we’re still watching our friends and colleagues manage to achieve couple status, while we languish in the land of perpetual solitude. The Mission We decided we just to know if our unshakeable singlehood is our fault — and you’re invited to come on the journey with us.
.” hot.”These sunny pep talks may be well-intentioned and designed to make us feel better, but with time they’ve grown repetitive and strained — mostly serving to remind us of the way our perpetually single status is viewed by absolutely everyone around us.
So, I think in the end what could be contributing to my inability to get many people interested in dating me is looks (perhaps I am a type of attractive very few people are into); personality (perhaps the way I think/talk/act has been a giant barrier); lifestyle (I am a public feminist and could seem more intense/scary than the average person); or all of the above (I suspect that I just might a combination of things that make me particularly unattractive to most people). polyamory, for example), we share the desire for meaningful, intimate connection and have certainly, at times, felt the demoralization Friedman described. Online dating is championed as a solution as routinely as it is used to yell at younger generations in true “Get off my lawn!
Friedman has advice for those who, like us, have engaged in self-blame:“Make space for your own grief and anger over feeling sexually or romantically devalued. ” fashion that we’re ruining all chance at happiness by swiping and clicking as we peruse supposedly endless options.
Eventually I realized I didn’t want that kind of relationship — the “anchor”/live-in/spouse-type partner — with anyone.
But the immediate wave of relief in discovering the kind of relationship lifestyle was right for me was quickly replaced by panic as it hit me: if I had failed miserably at standard dating over the previous 15 years, how in the HELL was I going to fare any better veering off the normative path?