Ready for dating after divorce
Many people are dating as part of open relationships, so if monogamous folks are turned off by your legal status, aim for people more familiar with these situations. Time alone isn’t healing if you aren’t doing the work.
SH: You’ve heard the saying that time heals all wounds? That means processing any feelings of loss or failure you have around the split, as well as any wounds created by the relationship itself.
I actually think it takes people a minimum of one year and probably more like two years before they really even think about getting into a relationship. I don’t think that there’s one true answer for anything, I think that’s more of a guideline.
So it didn’t take me long to decide I wasn’t going to date a man who had not been divorced for more than one year. But I had to do a lot of changes, and that was my journey.
The Cheat Sheet spoke with Stella Harris, a coach for the Juicebox app, an anonymous platform for users to have conversations with certified sex and relationship coaches.
Here’s what Harris had to say about dating after divorce.
It’s a good idea to give yourself time to process your breakup. It’s also important to reconnect with your friends and rediscover your hobbies.Start with something low stakes like a daytime coffee meeting and go into it having given yourself permission to leave at any time.SH: The only ideal time is when you’re feeling ready.So, this means you’re not looking for dates to avoid being alone or to seek validation.You’re going on dates when you think the company of someone new might add something to your life. CS: What are some pros and cons of dating while you’re separated and not legally divorced yet?