Dating a man 12 years older than me
This year, my husband, who will move up into his forties, will officially be married to a girl still in her twenties. Actually, we’re just over ten years apart but it so happens that there are three little months between his fortieth birthday and my thirtieth.
Considering the fact that he teases me mercilessly about my abundance of gray hair, I think it’s about time I get to talk up my great youth.
In reality, strangers hardly know there is much of an age difference between us, and they're almost certainly unaware that the difference is about 12.5 years — an age gap that is taboo in our culture.
Before I realized the depth of others' judgments about our “taboo” relationship, I first had to get over my own insecurities about being with someone over a decade younger.
The age gaps spanned anywhere from 10 to 14 years, with women in their late 40s and early 50s enjoying relationships and/or marriage with men in their late 20s or 30s. Couples in this situation had to address the fertility concern head-on, with some choosing to take the leap relatively quickly while others took a pass.
My age has been a huge barrier for some to open their minds and hearts and get to know me simply as the person whom he loves.Chances are he’s lived on his own for quite some time.The whole, “Well, my mom used to…” has pretty much faded into a distant childhood memory.during our dating season, I realized it was coming and started giggling over it, even then.It’s definitely fair to say that my dear man was warned, so I don’t feel even the tiniest bit bad about it.