40 year old woman dating 18 year old
He now refers to her as his girlfriend and frequently stays overnight at her house. I understand that he's an adult and he can do whatever he wants to, but I just can't get comfortable with the situation.I would have thought that a woman of that age would want be wined and dined, taken on dates to fancy bars and restaurants, and getting expensive gifts bought for her. He is not exactly experienced with relationships as he has only had one other girlfriend. Not that he was unhappy before, but he's had a real spring in his step since this all started. When you're only seeing someone in a bubble, it's hard to really evaluate the relationship. Someone telling me how dumb I was being would not have helped and probably only made me more determined.But this is a woman who should bloody well know better. Best OP can do is make sure their son knows how to look after his heart.Yeah, OP's son is only barely closer in age to the woman than her son.Maybe when they're a lot older, it's not as big of a deal, but 20 to 30 is huge. The idea of raising a family and having kids entered my brain at a steady trickle. I can't tell you how to feel, but I'm a big fan of "live and let live". I was in this situation about 30 or so years ago...the child.When I was 22, I was in a relationship with an older woman for a short time. I was recently back from college and living at home while I was job and apartment hunting. I enjoyed spending time with her, and she enjoyed my company. Knowing that that sort of future wasn't possible, we had a mutual, friendly breakup and remain friends. Looking back, I wanted excitement, and she did too. (I use that in quotes because as 40 I still feel young, so I really don't know what it's like not to feel young). My parents never said anything to me about her, but they were aware of her. You know yourself and your son far, far better than me or anyone else here. At this point though, I wouldn't vocalize anything. If he's noticeably happy when he comes back from her house, I can't find anything wrong with that. My mum started dating a man who was 18 when she was 31 and I was about 5. He was like a cool uncle to me, going to art school and riding a motorcycle. He ended up marrying and having his own child about 5 years after they broke up.
This is be sure to make sure she's not putting bills in his name or credit cards or something.
May-December is fine..it usually happens once both partners can be considered competent, independent adults.
I'd be very worried that this woman is just using him as a pool boy, so to speak. I wouldn't want him to get blindsided, though.
My son is 18 and has been seeing a 31 year old woman for the past four months. She also has a 4 year old son who she has introduced to my son.
I expected that considering the huge age gap it would burn out pretty fast, but the relationship seems to be progressing.